Monday, September 1, 2014

On Ob-gyns, Red Raspberry Leaf Tea, and Birthing Classes

As my delivery date draws nearer, more and more thoughts crowd my mind. Everything from my birth plan to trying to get all my work done in between brief fits of headaches/needing to lie down often are all jostling for importance, but I'm thankful at least that the worst of the nausea seems to have passed.

I transferred to a better Ob-gyn, someone far more suitable to my personality and one that both I and my husband feel more at ease with. My last doctor was a bit too strict on brands and prescriptions, and didn't really seem to understand that I was hoping for a bit of flexibility, especially when it came to my pre-natal vitamins. It had gotten to the point where my husband said he was scared that we would strangle each other every time we talked, and I theorized that she was, perhaps, vastly supported by BioFemme, the brand she kept touting. It was also a brand that I kept consistently throwing up, but she refused to entertain the notion that hey, maybe she could try recommending other brands and they'd be easier to keep down. (I ended up buying multivitamins from Healthy Options and they're still what I'm taking now.)

In any case, my new doctor is far more sympathetic to the reality of being pregnant, and was even able to find a stronger Iron supplement that I could actually keep down. (I was previously taking Solgar Gentle Iron which was wonderful and had no ill effects, but I think wasn't enough for my prenatal needs). I'm currently taking Iberet-Folic, which I can keep down because it's slow release. (My previous doctor was recommending that I take-- you guessed it-- more BioFemme. Ugh.)

I've also started drinking red raspberry leaf tea, which is admittedly a bit more on the hippie organic spectrum than I usually go for, but I figure even the placebo effect might help me during delivery. As with many organic things, there are no substantial formal studies that support this, but many midwives and mothers claim that red raspberry leaves helps strengthen the uterine lining and that in effect, it helps you give birth easier. I always take things like this with a grain of salt, (given my experience with organic vitamin swindlers during my late mother's bout with cancer) but in this case, I had nothing to lose if I tried it.

I bought three boxes of Earth Mama Angel Baby's Third Trimester Tea, and the taste (when sweetened with orange spice honey) is pretty good. I couldn't find any brand of red raspberry leaf tea locally, so I had to buy it from Amazon. It wasn't expensive, (around $6 per box of 20 bags) though as usual the shipping costs were annoying (especially when Amazon chose to pack three regular sized boxes of tea in a huge box filled with plastic bags filled with air. What!?)

My son at 22 weeks. 3D Ultrasound taken by InMyWomb

I suspect I won't actually know if it has worked until after I've given birth, but even then it could be a variety of factors that lead up to a quick natural birth. Ah, the nature of organics! I think the one formal study conducted about red raspberry leaf tea showed promising results (I think they tracked about 100 women), but there really needs to be more research done into this. Until then, women will have to content themselves based on testimonies and little else, which is really just a depressing thought altogether.

In other news, my husband and I are starting our Bradley method birthing class next week, and I'm pretty excited about it. As first time parents, we want to make sure we're as prepared as possible for what's coming, and while we know that nothing beats actual hands-on experience, the mental fallback of having done our best to prepare for this is a comfort. I finished typing up a tentative birth plan a couple of weeks back (it comes in to just over one page), and I'm eager to see if any of my choices/requests are actually suitable for me. I've done as much research as time allows, but nothing beats being able to ask an actual expert. After that, I plan on double-checking everything with my actual Ob-gyn, and then making 'final' decisions based on that information. If push comes to shove, I'm certain that I'll defer to my Ob's call, but as long as my birth progresses well, I'm hoping to stick to an unmedicated birth. Only time will tell if I'm up for the challenge, but here's hoping!

Monday, July 21, 2014

17 Weeks And Counting...

I've finally managed to find some semblance of normalcy in my life, due in no small part to hitting my second trimester last month and the rush of hormones rampaging through my body gradually abating to something more manageable. I had a pretty rough first trimester, and having to juggle work and the copious amounts of nausea and vomiting was not a pretty sight. I had very few good days in my first trimester, and feeling ill for me started very early on. Josh and I had been trying for several months to get pregnant, so we were watching my period like hawks and found out almost immediately after I missed a few days in my period that I was pregnant.

I remember being so miserable, laying in bed with massive headaches and feeling as if my world was about to end (an exaggeration, I know, but I digress), unable to eat or drink because I'd be throwing it right back up. It seemed as if whatever I could keep down during one week was entirely repulsive to me during the next week, and I seriously began to question our decision to have a child this way. Adoption had been a possibility for us ever since we'd began discussing children in the first place, and neither of us was averse to it. When we were having a bit of trouble getting pregnant, we immediately thought to adopt instead, and set a time limit to our trying to get pregnant naturally. We're big fans of 'going with the flow', so if natural conception didn't take, we figured we'd start researching the local adoption process for real.

Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it), regular conception did take, and with it came all the "joys" of pregnancy. My mother never had too many horror stories about her pregnancy with my brother and I, and I had always assumed I'd be able to handle whatever my body threw at me. Had I not worked through shingles? (Doubled over my computer in pain and pathetically pushing my mouse around my desk, but I worked nonetheless). Hell, I even completed a full day's work when I had amoebiasis from the (incredibly non-drinkable) water in Boracay before crawling to the hospital. But apparently my determination of iron stops when faced with my first trimester of pregnancy. Who would've thunk?

In any case, what helped me greatly was reading through the accounts of other pregnant and miserable women, and finding out what helped them cope. Not everything worked for me, of course, and some of them worked for a few days and then stopped the next. But sharing what little tips I have might help someone, so I figured I might as well put them up.

1) Eat small, frequent meals. Everyone says this, and it's mostly true. My doctor initially gave me a list of things to not eat/drink during my very first visit at week 8, but by the next few weeks, she was begging me to eat anything I could keep down. I lost 10 pounds during my first trimester (which I have still not gained back at week 17), and really-- eat small bits of whatever you can keep down. For me it was a rotation of almonds (unsalted, plain), crackers, very small amounts of oatmeal, half of whatever pastry my husband brought home, sour candies and, very occasionally, a few spoonfuls of meat and rice.

2) Caffeine. This is a controversial issue, I know, but recent studies have proven than one cup of coffee per day (or 200mg of caffeine) will not harm your baby. My THS levels were extremely low during my first trimester, and I could barely get out of bed from exhaustion. A little caffeine (whether taken in chocolate bar form, a mild cup of tea, or a decaf latte), would help give me enough energy to get through a few hours of work. Of course, I was never a big coffee drinker before I was pregnant, so I haven't built up a tolerance to it. The tiny amounts that made a huge difference to me might not make any difference to a regular coffee drinker, but I figured I'd just put it out there.

3) Meds. I tried Tums but this didn't help me at all. In fact, it made me feel even sicker when I had some pretty bad heartburn. I also got prescribed some other pregnancy-safe, anti-nausea medication that didn't really work either, so in the end I just went cold turkey on all of it. Some women have sworn by whatever meds their doctors gave them, and it was a personal choice for me to just stop trying with the meds. There were even some women who were advocating the use of Zofran, which is the same drug they give cancer patients who undergo chemotherapy, because it really helps with the nausea. While I had some pretty horrible days, I never considered taking it and opted to just ride out the discomfort. I'm certainly not one of those militant 'organic or nothing' people, and I have nothing against the mothers who decided to take it, but it just wasn't for me.

4) Cold, frozen anything. Ice water, fruit juice slush, ice cream. Anything cold helped settle my stomach a bit, and while you obviously can't exist on shakes alone, a trip to the local Jamba juice when you can't keep anything down helps.

When I hit my second trimester, the vomiting got worse before it got better. I think I peaked at about week 12, and none of the above worked any longer. The best I could do was ride it out, eat what little I could, and hope that I wasn't going to be this sick for the remainder of my pregnancy. It got better little by little, and now, at week 17, I'm eating almost normally. I eat about half the portions I used to with every meal, and I pair that with eating five times a day instead of three. There are still some food aversions and the occasional bout of nausea (mostly during long drives), but I'm more or less functional.

Pregnancy is different for everyone and I'm not sure if my nausea will return in my third trimester (like it does for many), but I've got my fingers crossed and I'm keeping positive!

Tuesday, July 15, 2014


After a two-year hiatus, I've deemed my old Fashion blog to be officially closed. Writing about various beauty and fashion topics was great fun for quite a long time, but as I tackle another looming milestone in my life, I've been feeling significantly less enamored with my old hobby. That said, motherhood is quite a life-changing thing to look forward to, and I imagine that it will be an interesting subject to blog about. I'm not quite sure what main topic this latest incarnation of my blog will have, but it's safe to say that my pregnancy and subsequent child will probably feature in quite heavily. :)

Additionally, I'll no longer be accepting paid posts or products for review, so please do not ask. Commercial blogging took the fun out of writing for me, and I'm sticking to the bare essentials for this one.